When Therapy Can Help
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When it comes to flu season, we all know we should get our shots and wash our hands—it’s always better to be prepared. When it comes to the rest of our lives, however, so many of us end up run down. Between kids, dating, work, marriage, bills, and all the daily difficulties, it’s no surprise. Unfortunately, washing our hands won’t stop us from hitting bumps or dealing with hardships. There’s no vaccine for unhappiness, but there is therapy.

You might have just paused. You might be thinking, “Things aren’t that bad”. Maybe, “I’m not sick”. Therapy isn’t about illness, however, or something you just do after major trauma. Psychotherapy is a practice that uses talk to help us process life. Whether it’s grief, change, anxiety, relationships, or confidence, therapists have tools to help you gain insight and to grow into a stronger person: to overcome difficulties. Therapy won’t stop them from happening, but it can let you handle them better.

This can happen in-person, in an office. It can also take place from your own home. Whether it’s over text, phone calls, or video chats, therapy is accessible in whatever form you are most comfortable with. Therapy is an individual journey, and there’s many ways to start talking.

⇒ Signs That I Should Go

Just like there’s no one way to do therapy, there’s no right or wrong time to start. However, if you’re feeling uncertain, here is a list of signs that therapy could be helpful:

  • You can’t stop feeling anxious
  • You’re undergoing a time of big change
  • You’re sad, down, or apathetic all the time
  • You’ve experienced loss
  • You’re not sleeping
  • You’re thoughts are negative or harmful
  • Your relationships are falling apart
  • You feel like the past is holding you back
  • You’ve developed unhealthy habits
  • You’re feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, or stuck

These are just examples—maybe you’re experiencing all of these or maybe it’s something else. It can take time, but working with the right therapist can help you become more resilient and better at managing and overcoming issues.

Therapy isn’t just for when things go wrong, though—it can be for anyone at any time. Just like the precautions we take during flu season, therapy can help keep us emotionally healthy. If things feel like they’re going your way, counseling can help keep you on track by offering extra insight and support. Life can be hard to manage and there’s nothing wrong with asking for help.   

⇒ Dealing with the Stigma

Even people who do attend therapy and know how helpful it can be might feel embarrassed or ashamed. Therapy isn’t for the sick, though—it’s for anybody who feels stressed, upset, or like they need to talk. In other words, therapy is for everyone.

Of course, there’s no rule that you have to post online when you start attending sessions. In fact, no one has to know—any therapist is bound to client confidentiality. That means, outside of a few extreme situations, your sessions are protected. It’s up to you if, and when, you decide to let anyone else know what you talked about, or that you’re even talking to anyone at all.

Unfortunately, there is still stigma attached to counseling that stops people from reaching out. While there’s no reason to feel ashamed about mental health, it can feel overwhelming to say that we need help—sometimes, it’s easier to just avoid it. As scary as it might seem, though, so much of therapy is just talking in a safe, protected space. It’s so simple, but it can do so much good for anyone who is struggling.

⇒ Ways that Psychotherapy Helps

Therapy is like a seed—it might not seem like much at first. For days or weeks, the dirt’s going to stay the same. This can be discouraging, but when we keep watering, something’ll eventually poke through.

Of course, maybe there are other things we’d rather be doing. Therapy is hard work, but when we stick with it, that plant grows bigger and bigger. Eventually it flowers into all sorts of beautiful things that benefit our lives in different ways.

⇒ Organization

We can get so busy running around everyday that we don’t have time to stop and process—therapy, however, gives us that. For about an hour, we’re allowed to really consider how we feel and what we think. Rather than letting things pile up, we can stop, breath, and look around at what’s going on in our head.

Therapy gives us a space to do this and the tools to take a step back and understand our reactions and emotions: to learn what we need in different situations. When we do this, we can clear our mental clutter so we feel less overwhelmed. Instead, we come out knowing more about ourselves, our wants and feelings, and how to treat ourselves better.

⇒ Relationships

There’s a reason couple’s counseling exists—communication is the key to healthy relationships. Unfortunately, we’re not always great at it. Therapy, though, can help us understand what we’re really saying and how to communicate what we mean. It opens relationships up, improving understanding and how we interact.

Of course, therapy isn’t just for romantic relationships. It helps us be a better friend, parent, neighbor, and co-worker—by offering and encouraging objective insight into our thoughts, values, and emotions, therapy creates more fulfilling relationships with everyone in our lives, including ourselves. 

⇒ Keeping on Track

Most of us have the special talent of getting in our own way. Whether it’s moving, finishing a project, making friends, or starting a business, fear, stress, and anxiety are great at stopping things before they even get started. Of course, therapy isn’t magic—we still have to do the hard work and put in the hours. However, it does give us a system of support and helps simplifies big tasks into small steps.

 Whether we’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t know where to start, or need help holding ourselves accountable, therapy gives us the tools to build towards our goals. It takes a village, and therapy can help you fill it.

⇒ Our Quality of Life

When we’re down or angry all the time, it’s hard to feel good about much. Therapy helps by teaching us to release negative emotions and allows us to create new perspectives—it provides us with someone who’s there to listen and to work on whatever problems may come up, even if it doesn’t seem like there’s a solution. This doesn’t mean we’ll always be happy, but by working through the past and having help with the future, we create more peace and happiness in the present.

⇒ Health

Starting therapy doesn’t mean you’re sick, but it can help you from becoming ill. This probably isn’t a surprise to anyone who has experienced bad stress: it turns your stomach, makes it hard to sleep, and raises your blood pressure. Our thoughts live in our bodies and there are so many studies that show the link between our mental and physical wellness. From better heart health to improved sleep, help with depression to less fatigue, there are so many ways therapy improves more than just our mood.

While everyone has a different journey with therapy, there is a therapist for everyone. There’s never a wrong or right time, but there is always help available if you’re experiencing any of the signs above or other problems. Whether it’s in-person or online, if life feels overwhelming, reaching out can be a great stepping-stone to positive growth.

Healing Within Online Counseling for Teens & Adults

If you are interested in finding a therapist, consider contacting Healing Within, an online platform that provides counseling and emotional support. Through the use of private videoconferencing software or the telephone, I can provide therapy for a variety of challenges you may be experiencing. Reach out today and begin the journey to a more peaceful state of mind.

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CYNTHIA FONG, M.S.W., LCSW, PPSC

CYNTHIA FONG, M.S.W., LCSW, PPSC

Cynthia is the Founder of Healing Within, A Licensed Clinical Social Worker Corporation. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker providing online counseling/therapy services for adults or teens (13 and older) who reside anywhere within the state of California.

Cynthia also offers consultation services for nonprofit organizations in the San Francisco Bay Area.

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